This is strictly for girls because it is a girls talk. I know a couple of y’all will read truth but since they say love is blind, you will still decide to go and let yourself be deceived. However, the truth still has to be spoken. Today, we are going to be revealing 10 real signs he is using you sis. You should be extremely careful with guys who do this. I’m not saying any situationship, friendship or relationship is perfect. I’m simply saying do not allow yourself to be used because you also need love.
The Bible says : “Love your neigbours like you love yourself” Matthew 22:39. Meaning, you should be able to love yourself first before being able to love your neigbours. Protecting yourself from being used and hurt is a way of showing yourself love.
So, will be giving you 10 truthful signs to prove that he is just using you sis.
1. Your Instincts : A lot of ladies neglect this but this is one of the most important tool to identify if a guy is using you or not. If you always have a reason to doubt him, you are being used. Within you, there are always two conflicting voices speaking. Your heart & your instincts. It is better to follow your instincts than to be blinded by love. How do you know if your instincts are talking? The moment something is telling you within he only wants to use you, that’s it then sis. Because obviously your heart loves him and will want only him.
2. He hasn’t made it official : If the guy doesn’t make things official, stop assuming y’all in a relationship or he loves you. If one loves you, he will want to make it official and that’s by asking you out. Do not at any instance for whatever reason think he loves you just because he flirts with you. Ask questions. Ask him what y’all are or you quit. Adults definitely shouldn’t be doing “friends with benefits”.
3. Doesn’t show you off : All humans have this nature of wanting to show off sis. If Bill Gâtes post his partner, who is your bf ? Do you think if he was dating Beyonce he will make the relationship private ? Or is Tammy Abraham crazy to post his gf? Get your answers within. Anything anyone is proud of, they will quickly want to show it off. Partner included. If he doesn’t, he definitely is seeing someone he cherishes more than you.
4. “I’m busy”, he is always busy: My dear sister, if he is always busy, he is using you. People give attention to what they value. I love this blog that’s why I’m dedicating my time to write. I love y’all that’s why I’m writing. If I love my partner, obviously I won’t be too busy to converse or be with them. They are in the list of my important stuff to handle daily.
5. He asks you for money : I know a couple of males will be like “men can be broke at times “. Yes obviously everyone can be broke at times. But making it a habit of always being down yet cannot assist your lady when she is down is a sign he is using you sis. We humans have this pride. You cannot ask for something like money to one you value continuously because somehow, you will feel terrible. It is human nature.
6. Brags, has no money but dresses well : You see all these guys who dress well but have no cash or source of income sis ? You will definitely be used as a source of income for them.
7. You know none of his friends or family : I know a guy can still use you even after having introduced you to his family and friends but here I’m talking of 10 obvious signs he is using you. If you know none of his family or friends, sis, you are being well used. Guys like to brag about their gfs to their friends.
8. Does not support your dreams: If he is very selfish and doesn’t care about your growth, sis you are being used. A guy who sees you in the future will repeatedly ask questions about your growth. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t see y’all ever having anything above flirting.
9. Offer gifts to other ladies, not just you: Some guys will claim to love you, never offer you anything but buy for other ladies. Their excuse is “they are my friends, I’m not giving you because I value you” LOL. Be careful with your heart sister.
10. Resistant to Change : Shows you a poor attitude or treats you badly at times, when you want to talk about it, he says that’s how he is and cannot change. Wow! I don’t need to tell you he is using you sis. Change is the only constant things in life.
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